Christmas Day-2002, we (my husband, I and the kids) opened up presents. After opening up presents, he packed his stuff and left. (yes left us on Christmas Day) I was heart broken but what held me up was my kids. They were 5 and 2. I was crying but they wern't. I remember my daughter saying, well at least you and daddy won't fight now that he's gone. Well that made me realize that we didn't need to be together. I made an appt with an attorney and my mom and I had a consult with her. She stated that our contested divorce would cost about $3,000.00. So my mom gave the attorney her credit card and he was served, at work, the next week. Needless to say he was not happy. Our divorce was so awful. It dragged on for about 9 months. Well our last court date, our final, he didn't show so I got everything. The house, car, kids,furnishings,etc. He had to pay spousal support and child support. (he had a great job at the time)
Living on the support, I watched my best friends baby and thats how I made ends meet for the 1st year of the divorce. I lost about 60 pounds during the divorce. I weighed 150 lbs and look very sick that skinny. (yes can you believe it?)
After a year of the support he got a DUI and lost his job. The support stopped. I had to get a job. I got a job at a CPA firm as a receptionist. Making $8.00 an hour. I had to put my son, who was 4 at the time, in daycare. That was the first time he was ever in daycare. He cried just about every day. It broke my heart. We lived paycheck to paycheck but we made it. I didn't recieve child support for 7 years.
After working at the CPA firm for almost 2 years and being treated like trash, they hired a college girl, they said that I was to train her and her job was to work along side me. I found that odd since I had worked there for almost 2 years by myself. I trained her for 2 weeks and at the end of 2 weeks they called me in the office and told me they had to let me go and gave me 3 weeks severance pay. Well I was dumbfounded again. Single parent, no job, no child support. WTH was I to do????
So I hit the pavement and went office to office handing out my resume. I recieved a call from a dental office and that's what started my experience in the dental field.
I worked for a local dentist for 2 years and somehow keep it together. Without any child support, I had to pay my car note one month and my house note the next. Somehow we made it. Also not to mention help from my mom along the way. (I don't know what I would of done without her)
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